Using Sex to Get Love and Vice versa
Women have sex with their boyfriends out of fear of losing them, and they
wonder if they should do it. For example, Jane who keep getting involved with
men who sleep with her but then won't call. What did she do wrong?
The advise is , hold off having sex until you really know someone and what he
wants out of a relationship. You can't possibly know someone's true intentions
early in a relationship. If you find yourself jumping into bed too soon, examine
your self-esteem and deeper emotional needs.
Too many people have sex when they are really looking for is love. If you
sleep with someone whose feelings are not the same as yours, you are bound to
end up feeling hurt. It's a mistake to have sex with someone you don't really
know with the expectation of receiving love, just as it's a mistake to mislead
someone into thinking that you care when all you really want is sex.
Some people (admittedly more men than women) love the thrill of conquest and
will "work" the relationship until they get what they want. After
that, they lose interest. If you've ever been in this situation, you know how
easy it is to blame yourself -- for not being interesting, sexy, or attractive
enough. instead, recognize you were being used, and be wise to prevent it from
happening next time.
For example, Anita met a attractive guy in her class who flirted with her
shamelessly and wrote 'I love you' on her notebook. He called her a few times
and once they have phone sex. After that, he stopped talking to her. What's up?
It is very possible that this man either got what he wanted, or realized he
wasn't going to get exactly what he wanted, so he pulled away. Anita should be
glad this guy came and went so quickly. Also Anita should have take
responsibility for her own actions. After all, she engaged in sexual phone games
with a man she barely knew. As the saying goes, if you cast your net too wide,
you're bound to snag a few bad fish.