The eyes are the window to the
soul. When you look at someone, you are saying that you are willing
to see and connect with them, and you are willing to be seen
yourself. You have only to watch new lovers in a restaurant gazing
across the table into each other's eyes to know how powerful eye
contact can be.
But how much eye contact is too
much/too little/the right amount? Research shows that a constant
stare makes people uncomfortable. However, a short gaze may mean
that the person is shy, insecure, or insincere. The most effective
eye contact is where you glance, linger, look away, then reconnect
-- holding each other's gaze for at least 60 percent of the total
time you are together.
Once you've made eye contact,
longer looks usually work.