The First Time

A caring partner will appreciate your honesty and the opportunity to teach you. If not, walk away -- this is not a person to trust with your intimate feelings.

You can eliminate some performance pressures by talking together. Agree to take it slow, and that things may not be as great as you both expect. Spend some evenings just exploring one another's bodies through massage. Give each other feedback on where and how you like to be touched, making a more natural flow into lovemaking.

Too many men and women express regrets to me about their first time -- that they felt pressured into having sex, that it wasn't special enough. Don't do it just to "get it (virginity) over with." Think before you act, so you'll have no regrets later.

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