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Turning Friends into Lovers
Lee, has an inspiring story about turning a friend into a lover. She had been
hanging out with a guy, shooting pool, watching videos, and hiking, for six
months until one day while riding on a bus home from the movies, he leaned over
after a stall in the conversation, took her face in his hands, and kissed her
softly. her reaction was, "Oh my God," as he explained, "I've
been wanting to do that for a really long time," to which she teased
encouragingly, "Well, are you going to do it again?" His next kiss was
deep and months later he proposed. "The friendship was what made me love
him," Lee said, " because I learned I could really trust this guy and
could tell him anything."
If it looks like you can't turn the friendship into love, it's up to you to
control your longing, to keep the friendship close, but not intimate. As with
any unrequited love or impossible situation, don't waste your energy wishing or
hoping. Julie said, " I have strong feelings for a friend and I know
nothing is going to happen between us but every time I see him with another
woman, I get jealous. how can I overcome this feeling?" As soon as the
feeling overtakes you, switch your mind to planning or doing something for
yourself. Focus on finding someone who can be both friend and lover. Figure out
what you like about your friend and be open to someone else who possesses those
qualities.
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