The Stages of Your Hooking Up
You're likely familiar with the phrases "We're just casually
dating" and "This is getting serious." There's more about making
commitments. For now, it's worthwhile to know that to get from the casual stage
of dating to the serious stage, you actually go through these 10 steps.
Stage 1. The first look. At that first glance, you sense your initial
attraction. You're lucky if you feel the draw right away: Research shows it
takes those 15 seconds to make your initial decision about whether you are
Stage 2. The first flush. When you're face-to-face. you get a fuller sense of
how you interact and whether you feel good being around each other and can talk
to each other.
Stage 3. Feeling "in like." You sense you enjoy being around the
person and are curious to find out more about him.
Stage 4. Feeling lust. This is the flush of adrenaline that may make your
heart pound. Your skin tingles, and you can't wait to feel their arms around you
or their lips on yours.
Stage 5. Falling in love. You've spent time together, and you notice he has
that savoir fare that makes you melt. He orders wine and you're impressed he
knows the vineyards. She talks to your friends and you feel thrill of pride over
Stage 6. Getting over humps. You first imagine you could wake up every
morning looking at her without makeup, or you decide you can fall asleep every
night even though he snores.
Stage 7. Speaking words of commitment. Telling each other you could be
Stage 8. Practicing coupledom. You spend a weekend playing house, making his
bed, cooking her breakfast, and taking your nephew to the zoo. So now you think
you might be able to do the marriage-and-kids thing together.
Stage 9. You move in together and see how you really get along.
Stage 10. You can get through the rough spots, where you might feel tinges of
being bored with him or you're worried that she doesn't look as hot to you that
day. Still, you hang in there and it gets better again.