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Excuses: Holding On When You Know You Should Let Go
Sometimes we need a kick in the pants to get out of a really bad
relationship.
Laura : My boyfriend drinks too much and has been unfaithful. When
I tell him I want to leave him, he says he'll never let me go. He tells me that
the problem is that I'm unhappy with my life, and I'm blaming him. Is it my
problem?"
What is your problem, is that you are putting up with this man's
psychological abuse and manipulation. His drinking, cheating, blaming, and
threatening are sure signs that he is the one who is desperate, disturbed, and
in need of help. Don't allow his threats to intimidate and paralyze you. Life is
too precious to waste, so don't spend another minute being miserable and treated
poorly. Be firm about your complaints, expectations, and intentions. Take action
-- get legal counsel or an order of protection if you think you need it. insist
that he get counseling, and get support for yourself (from friends, a therapist,
or a 12-step program for people in relationships with alcoholics) to shore up
your self-esteem. Then bless the guy and send him on his way.
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