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Being a Good Conversationalist
The art of conversation involves having the confidence to speak freely about
whatever comes to your mind (without self-consciousness or second-guessing
yourself), but also in a manner that engages the other person to be interested
in what you are saying and feel like you are interested in them as well.
Your conversation can cover many types of topics, such as these:
- Talk about current events or news. For example, if you or the other
person likes movies, have a story ready about a new release or the latest on a
film star (Pam clinched Charles's interest when she talked about Japanese
producer Kurasawa's death). Sports lovers can talk excitedly about the latest
baseball records (if anyone's close to McGwire or Sosa's homers). Conspiracy
theories about Princess Diana's death can stimulate analytic minds.
- Use compliments. Notice -- and make a positive comment about -- your
date's looks such as eyes or hair), actions (a gesture), expressions, or
experiences. Jody was swept away when she slid into the booth at the restaurant
and Geoffrey immediately noticed her unusual nail polish!
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